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Friday, June 10, 2016

Love

Oh no. This is the first time I'm writing about love.
Disclaimer: I'm not pointing a finger at anyone. I'm sorry if this post might not be nice to read or may have wrong information or wrong presumptions.

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Do you think love is a feeling? It is always said that it is. I don't think that's all. If you romantically love a person because they are the person who fits you the best, understands you the most, has been there for you the most, sacrificed for you the most, clicks with you best (probably can go on forever)...that's good. That's definitely good. But I think there's a loophole if that's all love is to you.

What if, along comes someone, who can accomplish all those criteria better than your current romantic interest? What if, your current romantic interest, starts to quit doing those things? I know this one is a bit far-fetched, but what if, that person you've been in love with, is someone who has pretended to be the ideal love interest of your life because they want to get something from you?

Will you stop loving them?

"If two people are truly in love, none of those things would happen," you might say. Okay. That's true. But how do you know if the person you love, really loves you back?

"I just do."

Okay, I've no objections to that answer. But just in case, my questions have sent some doubts running through your mind...may I offer my opinion?

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away."
1 Corinthians 13 : 4-8
Quoting the most famous (I think) paragraph on love, isn't enough to explain my point.
Nevertheless, take another look at those words. To sum up this passage, it says that love is the greatest and most important virtue a human being should have; it can apply to different types of love, but let's think about it in the context of romance. Never once did it mention about love feeling good. Instead, it speaks of love as an act of faith, trust, selflessness... That last sentence gives a small hint that love is deaf, dumb and blind, if I interpret it in my own way.

Is the love that we have just a temporary satisfaction to our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual needs? Or is it something, more solid than that? How do we make sure it doesn't crumble under the hardest of trials? You might say that you love someone, but you can never tell how you will react when face-to-face with the biggest obstacles.

So therefore, I believe that love is a decision. Sure, those feelings are the things that first attract you to a person and lead you to this decision. But once you make that decision, it must be a decision that cannot be affected anymore by feelings, because the feelings become accessories. If you are unable to make such a decision, you may not be ready or it may be the wrong person (or he/she may not be ready yet, depends; also remember that, he/she being the wrong person for you would just mean that you are the wrong person for them as well...just saying).
There are a couple of ways I think that can help someone decide. I strongly believe that praying is the top of the list. Next, as probably most people would say, is getting to know the person as a friend. Not sure about the rest...I'm no expert.


Is someone slow, or too long a wait? Maybe they are just taking their time, to make that decision~~

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WHY AM I SO SERIOUS? I just took all the fun out of love, didn't I? Well, this is after all, my opinion. I just wanted to encourage healthy relationships. (Because, it indirectly affects the next generation, and I want to do everything I can to prevent the next generation from living in broken homes. Hence, keep in mind that 1, your spouse should be someone who encourages you to be a better child of God and 2, attraction between man and woman aren't just meant to increase the human population, but to produce children who become righteous men and women.)

Dear mom and dad, I think you are good examples, so thank you. God bless you (I love you, but I prefer to keep these three words for special occasions so that they actually mean something).

Oh, by the way, let me know if I missed something. Thanks.

Monday, June 6, 2016

Keeping it all in

Everywhere...there are unsaid words, unvoiced thoughts, unspoken truths. (okay not everywhere, not everyone) Just look around. Look into your conversations. Do you sense that void? or is it just me.. .. .. ..

I don't understand. I wish there just could be more truth in this world. I don't get it. Does creating a happy atmosphere mean saying what sounds best all the time? I just wish...there could be more serious talk...without people getting uncomfortable and trying to end the conversation quickly. I know, privacy. Some things, can't be trusted to others. I get that. Nevertheless...I still long for that warmth of a serious conversation. It just makes you get a grasp of reality. Sure...laughter is scarce and why do you want to give a gloomy atmosphere? JUST CHILL MAN WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU. But...I can't. Not when so many things are mysteries to me. I really want to learn~

I would prefer, to laugh genuinely because I feel at ease. Having a knot in my chest all the time, isn't exactly a conducive state for laughter. I have so many unfinished things that I wish I could let out. But the time has passed and the topic has long been changed. Why are people so impatient?
(I'm impatient when I walk. I tend to step on people's heels when it's crowded and when my mind is just paralyzed with heavy thoughts. Sorry :( I'm clumsy when I multi-task. So, maybe I should slow down? I'm okay with that, but don't block the road -.- ) 
Or, rather, why are they so fast and I, so slow? Why are they so loud? Why are they so confident? I thought everyone was imperfect; why do they act as if they weren't? Why don't they flinch when they tell lies? Why don't they feel any remorse? Why do they help others to benefit themselves?

Or maybe...while other people have already settled their insecurities, I'm still hanging on to mine because I don't know who to trust?

I judge people too much? I don't really judge them...I just feel very curious why they act that way; 'giving the benefit of the doubt' sort of thing. So much so that, I forget to be a person.

It would be okay, if I could have conversations with God. But that doesn't happen to me. Maybe I'm not close to God enough. Or...maybe I'm not patient enough...

I wish I could stop time. So that, even busy people would have time to talk. I wish I could kidnap people. So that, even people with a million friends would have space to talk one on one.

In the end, every soul is alone with God when they face judgement. I think I can understand the feeling. Because, your true thoughts only reveal themselves when (you think) you are alone.

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"If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers - most of which are never ever seen - don't you think he'll attend to you, take pride in you, do His best for you? What I'm trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God's giving. People who don't know God and the way He works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how He works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don't worry about missing out. You'll find all your everyday human concerns will be met."
(Matthew: chapter 6 verse 33, The Message Bible) 

Seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given onto you...... Have no worries but fully trust in God and God will provide with everything that is best for you (not necessarily your wishes, because they just might backfire).

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Just to be clear, for the things I said, I can't be sure if things were really the way I think they were. I can't trust my own observations. It might be fogged up with jealousy, envy and my ego. In my opinion, the way I acted, thought and felt could probably be wrong in the first place. That's why I don't give advice, I may seem like I do, but I'm just sharing what I imagine I would do in that situation.

I did it again, got all negative. Sorry I'm not sorry. This is after all, just how I feel at the particular moment. 


Friday, June 3, 2016

Invisibility is attempting to not exist

Edit 13/06/2016: This was written in my mindlessness. I definitely don't support the way I'm thinking, and the language I use. But I'll just post it here although it embarrasses me. It's okay I don't mind; let me be a bad example to be avoided. 


I think, if there's something I wish for, it would be for my life to end. There's no restart button and no pause button. If you don't know how to live, what else is there to do but die?

I'm not sure how to describe it. Sometimes I wonder, did we choose to enter this world? This can't be true, but just imagine that everyone was once a soul that had no body and we had a choice of whether we wanted to enter a human body and experience the "bliss" of free will. Hypothetically, we signed up a form, agreeing to only two conditions - our memories must be wiped and God decides the parents to whom we will be born to. 

Nonsense, right? 

Existing is really an amazing experience, I'm not going to lie. Nevertheless, I sometimes say to myself, "I'll prefer having not existed in the first place than to hurt, annoy, provoke the people around me; doing more harm than good."  

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That is the most selfish thing I've ever said, because it makes me think I'm noble. Thinking that one is righteous just because they do not intend to harm people? Bullshit. The truth is deep down I don't want to be feel the guilt, the hurt and the embarrassment. If everyday were days of perfection, I would be begging to remain alive. Hypocrite. The only reason I can't take the suffering is because I've been losing faith in God.

Come close to God, and wash all those crocodile tears away.


I'm sorry for posting a lot of negative stuff here. They weren't meant to be complaints or rants. The written word is a blessing as it allows you to get a better grasp of what you were struggling with in your thoughts. Coming back to read what I wrote helps refresh on the way I felt before and is an opportunity for me to reflect. Why display it on a blog where anyone can read? Maybe someone who feels similarly chances upon this blog, and hopefully, it may be of help...

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

For those that feel empty (super-duper long post)

I didn't write this. I was just organizing files and came across this word document from d'Nous Academy 2013 (a camp for building up our mind, soul and spirit with the study of the Bible, praying and reflecting with God in solitude and acting out what we learnt through community engagement activities and fellowship with one another). There wasn't a name on it, so I'm not sure which speaker wrote it (I know his name is David though, because of one sentence inside). Anyway, it's really well written, in simple terms anyone of regular schooling can understand. After reading it, I think it's just perfect, especially for my generation. It's all copy-and-paste, I didn't edit it at all, none of it is by me. I just think it's too good not to share.

Maybe some of you have heard of the famous rock band called Radiohead. The lead singer was once asked in an interview, “What are your ambitions after achieving so much success in the music industry?”

And he answered, “Ambitious for what? What for? I thought when I got to where I wanted to be everything would be different. I’d be somewhere else. I thought it’d be like in heaven. And then I got there and achieved the success I’ve always dreamed of. But I’m still here.”

Then why are you still making music?

He says: “It’s filling up the hole. That’s all anyone does”.

The interviewer goes on and asks: “What happens to the hole?”
There was a pause… And he finally says: “It’s still there”.

It seems like we human beings have this infinitely huge vacuum in our hearts and we try our best to fill it up with things, money, gadgets, sex, music, success, English Premier League football, religion, you name it… but it leaves us empty as before. And in some cases we see the symptoms manifested as boredom, addiction (i.e. workaholic, alcoholic or drug abuse), a sense of despair or even suicidal tendencies. More than a thousand years ago, Saint Augustine wrote that our hearts are restless until they find rest or fulfillment or satisfaction in God.

In modern terms, the psychologist Dr.Viktor Frankl said that the drive to fulfill our meaning in life is the primary motivational force in us, human beings. From his experience in a horrible Nazi prison camp, he observed how prisoners who have lost hope and meaning for the future also lose the will to survive. And those who do not have a purpose worth living for will find an inner hole and a deep sense of emptiness within their hearts.


OK fine… We need to find the purpose of life. But why can’t I live a normal, meaningful and functional life without God?

Since we’re all going to die anyway, then let’s make this world a better place. We hear speeches at funerals that so-and-so has enriched many lives so his life and death is not in vain.

Or some may say, “Since we’re all going to die, let’s seize the day! (Carpe diem) Let’s party, eat, drink and be merry for life is short. Enjoy the simple pleasures while we still live. Then life can be meaningful.”

Or the existentialists will say, “Yes, life is meaningless and absurd. But I refuse to accept it and live as if there’s meaning. Let the world be cruel and indifferent, but I will not. I will choose to be compassionate and kind. That’s authentic human life.”

Well, so far so good. But let’s do a thought experiment here… If there is no God, then we are nothing but the accidental, by-product of nature. We came from matter plus time plus chance. We hit the lottery so we were born. We are a random collision of carbon based molecules. No soul, no spirit in us. There is no reason or no purpose for our existence. Our ultimate destiny is death and nothingness. 

So in a million years from now, it doesn’t ultimately matter what you did to improve the world or how many sunsets you have enjoyed. We all come to the end of our lives as naked and empty-handed as on the day we were born. We can’t take anything with us. In the long run, it’s just chasing after the wind.

Maybe your life was important because it influenced the course of history like Mahatma Gandhi or Martin Luther King Jr. But even that is like leaving your footprints in the sand… in just a moment, the waves will come, washing over them and they are gone. In the bigger scheme of things, it makes no difference. Nothing means anything. Because our lives are not connected to something bigger than ourselves… if there is no God. 

But with God, everything changes. Yes, you can work to make this world a better place. Heal the sick. Fight injustice and relieve suffering. And that only makes sense because people are created in the image of God. Therefore human lives are infinitely precious and valuable in themselves… even when they are weak, unproductive and suffering, they are still precious and worthy of our care. In a million years from now, the choices we make today will echo through eternity. One day, we will be raised back to life and God will judge our thoughts and actions. So how we live today has enormous significance. 

Yes, like the existentialists, we can defy the absurdity and cruelty of the nature. But if there is no God, there is no higher law of right or wrong. Everything is just ‘survival of the fittest’. It’s only natural for the strong to prey on the weak. That’s the law of the jungle. Being kind and compassionate to the weak only makes sense if there is an objective moral law higher than the law of the jungle and a moral Lawgiver we call God. For unless you know what a straight line is, how do you know that the world is crooked? Unless we know a divine law higher than the law of nature, we cannot rationally defy nature’s cruelty and indifference.

And lastly, yes, we can enjoy the simple pleasures in life. Friendships. Love someone truly, madly, deeply. Hug a baby. Write a poem. Listen to music. Go backpacking and enjoy the sunset.

But again, that only makes sense because a creative, personal and loving Creator God made us as relational beings, able to love and reason and enjoy the beauty of creation, music and creativity. Without God, love is just a biochemical reaction in your brain. Friendships are just an illusion created by our selfish genes to help pass on our DNA to future generations. Sunsets are just light reflections and nothing more. Without God, you can only enjoy these things if you suppress thinking about what they really are. For the Christian, these pleasures of life are good gifts from God that we can enjoy. They are clues, hints that point us to the Creator who is the ultimate source of all joys.

So the funny thing is this: we can have the courage to make the world a better place and enjoy the good things in life only because God makes all these things meaningful and beautiful. Everything is full of purpose. But without God, life is absurd, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.

Alright, I know what you are going to tell me, David, I need religion to give me purpose in life, right? All religious worldviews teach us to do good and if I live a better life, a less selfish life, I’d find the purpose of my life rite…

Actually, that’s not it. The Christian worldview is much more radical than that. The problem is not that we don’t know stealing, lust, hatred, attachment to worldly things, selfishness, cruelty is wrong or sinful. The problem is we already know it but we still do it. We want to do good but at the same time, we also find another desire to do exactly the opposite. It’s like our parents say “Don’t touch!” and we purposely touch it. So just getting religious advice and teachings, laws and regulations, do’s and don’ts is not the solution. The diagnosis has to be much deeper than that.

Cause if we are really honest with ourselves, we can find selfishness, greed, pride, lust and fear hidden in the deepest core of our being. I want to be good but there’s a dark side inside of me. It’s like having a split personality.

Have you heard the story of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde? Once upon a time, a brilliant scientist named Dr Jekyll came to realize that his dark side is waging a war inside him. So he comes up with a potion that can separate his good nature from his evil nature. When he drinks the potion during the day, he will be his good self and free to do what is good. But when he takes the potion at night, his bad side comes out and he becomes 10 times more selfish and evil than he normally is. This evil side of himself is called Mr Hyde, because he is hideous and because he is hidden in the dark.

Even in the best, the most righteous and kindest of us all hide something hideous in the depths of our hearts. There is a strong tendency in you and I to seek our own interests above all others, to be self-seeking… Unless we realize that we are sick, we will not look for a doctor. Unless we realize how helpless we really are, we will not turn to God.

When Dr Jekyll realizes that he is this living contradiction of good and evil, he decided to do all he can to get rid of selfishness and pride from his heart. He devoted himself to charity and good works, to drown his selfish nature with acts of kindness and sacrifice and pay for the wrongs he had done before. You know what? And it worked! He became the most moral and kind person, and stopped taking the potion at night to become Mr Hyde.

Then one fine day Dr Jekyll thinks of all the good that he has achieved, and how much better a person he was compared to others. He says, “I can say with total honesty that my decision to do good has produced great results. You know how much hard work I spent to help suffering people… But as I smiled, comparing myself with others, comparing my acts of goodness with their lazy, cruel neglect to do good… at that very moment, a horrible feeling came over me and I looked down… I was once again Mr Hyde”. At that moment, just when he has achieved his standard of being good and righteous, Jekyll transformed into Hyde again, this time without drinking any potion at all. Unable to control his transformations any longer, Jekyll killed himself.

The moral of the story is this: Covering up our selfishness and pride with lots of good works and kind deeds won’t make us less self centered. Instead they only feed into our pride and self righteousness. Jekyll becomes Hyde, not because he is bad, but precisely because he is good. If you define the purpose of your existence in terms of performance, you do good deeds motivated by self-interest (in order to get to heaven, escape from hell or to feel good about yourself, to meet expectation of others). In the end, the ultimate motive is still ‘yourself”. If you achieve it, you end up with self righteousness and pride. If you fail to achieve it, you will end up with despair and fear. Either way you still end up becoming Mr or Miss Hyde.

Here’s the difference:
Other worldviews: “Do good, obey the rules – then I will be accepted by God”.
The Good News: “I am accepted by God because of what Jesus has done – therefore I obey”.

Imagine if your Father hugs you and tells you, “Girl, you are my daughter. Boy, you are my son. I love you because you are my child. Not because of your performance in exams. No matter how you perform in exams, you are still my child and I love you. Therefore I want you to do the best you can in the exams.” How would that make you feel? Would you turn around and say, “Thanks Dad, since you love me so much, I’m gonna fail all my exams this year”? No, this kind of love releases you from fear and the crushing need to earn his love through performance. Instead it gives you a new motivation to perform i.e. because you are loved and want to please your father. You’d want to do even better. That’s exactly how God the Father accepts and loves us.

For the Christian, the purpose of life is LOVE – “  To love God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves”.  That’s why we obey God.  Not out of fear, but out of love. 2000 years ago, God Himself came into the world and became a man.  His name was Jesus the Christ. While we are still sinners, still disobedient and undeserving of God’s love, Jesus lived the perfect life that we should have lived and died the sacrificial death that we should have died. We should have died for our sins but the Lord Jesus laid down His life for us. This is the reason God came into the world. He came to rescue us.  He came to be crucified on the cross to take all our guilt, punishment and shame upon Himself. Because He loves us, He opens the way so that we can be forgiven and accepted by God. The Good News is: “You are accepted by God because of what Jesus has done – therefore you obey out of love, not out of fear”.

So the Purpose of life is not an abstract principle, a theorem, a set of rules and regulations you can find in a book. The Purpose of life is a Person. You can have relationship with this person, to love and be loved by God. The good news is Christ loves us more than we ever dare imagine even though we are more sinful than we’d ever dreamed of!
Not only that, on Easter Sunday he was resurrected from the grave! Jesus is the only Person to have conquered death itself. Death will not be the last word. It is not the end of everything. Because what God has done in Christ He will one day do for us and the rest of creation! Our physical bodies will be transformed to glory. The heavens and the earth will be renewed and purified. And this project has already started like a mustard seed in the world, ever growing and swelling and spreading. In the meantime, we are called to be the ambassadors of God’s kingdom on earth – in our lives, in our studies, in our worship, in our work, in our relationships to reflect God’s love to the world. We will say something more about this later. 

If you will place your trust on Jesus at the center of your being, and let Him shape your life, you will be transformed. You will love because God first loved you. You forgive others because God has forgiven you; and you serve others because God has served you. In a million years from now, you will have eternal life, caught up in wonder and awe in the presence of God forever. This is the purpose of life according to the Christian worldview.  


Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Long post about stuff that I think matters

I have been observing and I estimate that out of 10 people I meet, only one is at peace with themselves and the condition of this world. You might find it horrible of me to be judging everyone I meet.

It's a terribly difficult thing to find, the thing called peace. From the top of my head I can think of John Chapter 14 verse 27, but I'm not going to just quote it and then leave you wondering how does that verse imply to us. I'm actually scared of how much insecurity/'uncontentedness' there is in this generation I grow up in. So, no, I'm not going to risk leaving you another ambiguous unexplained bible verse that sounds cool, short and sweet, but not even hitting on your senses. I like things to be real, and that's why I tend to linger on uncomfortable things longer than most people, or at least I think I do. So, I'm not cool, not fun. You want cool and fun, you've come to the wrong place. Sorry, I just think that being this way is the best for me, but it might not be, but I leave that to God.

From a child until now I still haven't found the peace Jesus talks about. Maybe you think, taking a solitary trip away from the busyness of life, is how you can find peace, but in my opinion, that 'peace' you found is not going to last when you come back. Yes, Jesus always sought solitude to pray, but He already was at peace, I don't think He needed solitude to "reset" his "peace metre". Nevertheless, seeking solitude is a very good tool, so I'm just saying it might not be easy to come back from solitude and maintain that new-found peace. Then, "why come back from solitude, I want to stay there forever!" Isn't that just being selfish, you not doing anything for people? "Why would people need me?" Trust me, you are of a lot of use, if you allow God to use you.

This serving God thing might be a little overwhelming. Because "what if I have done all these terrible things, how am I worthy?" Or, "I am already so drained, I don't think I can afford to serve Him."
I'm not sure how to answer those. But I think one thing I realized, and probably why I wanted to write this at first, and it is that there is a paradox. A paradox, where I give my anxieties to Him, I do my best in this wretched state to honor Him in whatever ways I can, and giving praise and thanks to Him for all that happens to me, but by giving myself, I am actually receiving myself more and coming to the realization that all I was doing all along was receiving from Him the peace and the power of God's love. So, maybe that doesn't really fit the definition of a paradox, but I think you should be able to get the point.

"But I just don't want to worship this God." This is probably the hardest part to deal with. Imagine a vector quantity, like velocity. Creating a force is simpler than directing that force. Okay, bad analogy. But, God is your direction. If you just want to live your own life and try to find a better way, you're not going to find a better way. You do not control this world. God does. I'm sorry. This humbling truth, it's probably easier for some and at the same time more difficult for some to truly accept. And it definitely doesn't happen overnight, this journey of acceptance. Realizing who God really is, realizing who you really are, realizing what is life basically, it's tough. BUT, you have to face it one day sooner or later.

So just like those assignments you have in university, there's a deadline. You can get started now, or wait until it's too late. Ouch, that was harsh. Forgive me. Erm....I would say the best way to start would be by asking God to bring you into His will. Let Him know you want to do what He wants in your life, which is actually the best plan for your life, just as He promises in Romans chapter 8 verse 28. If you really want that in your life, don't stop nagging God (constantly praying I mean, I just wanted to let you know it's okay to pray the same thing over and over again. No need for long prayers and no need for formalities, just bawl, whine, throw a tantrum, sing...only just respect Him, like you would your father. Respect God and honor Him, because He respects and honors your prayers as well).
Remember, you most likely will be discouraged because nothing will apparently happen. You most likely would feel that you are the most unworthy person in the world. You most likely would be distracted by work, studies, the internet. You most likely will stop praying after sometime. You very likely will believe that nothing will happen, that the great friend you met yesterday was just a nice person and not a blessing from God, that the alertness you had in class was because you had taken your coffee and not a blessing from God, that the new client who arrived at your office was because a friend sent him to you and not a blessing from God.... I'm telling you, whether it takes a couple of months or 5 years or 10 years, God is going to be more and more evident in your life, if you don't stop longing and asking for His guidance. I am at the end of my teens and I am just only beginning to see His fingernails. Nobody is going to tell you this, because this topic NEVER comes up in any of my conversations with my friends. It never ever does (got la, but with one friend over social media websites). I might want to bring it up one day, but oh God help me. I need to be able to have a clear picture in order to describe it to anyone. So, writing this post is quite beneficial for me as well.

It's up to you, friend. Choose peace and life, or choose the opposite. Anyone ever told you that there's no middle ground? They were right.

p/s: If you're not sure which God to pray to, just address your prayer to the true God. If He is real, he will hear you and reveal Himself to you, when the time is ripe.

I do leave something more for you who are discouraged, like I am a lot of times.
but He said to me, " My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness." I will all the more gladly boast for my weaknesses, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities; for when I am weak, then I am strong.


2 Corinthians 12:9 

Friday, March 11, 2016

I'm so blessed

I tend to wallow in the mud of self-pity a lot, blaming the world when everything doesn't go the way I want. What a pathetic attempt to release the tension and numb the pain.

I'm so glad I never get what I want, and things never go my way. I like this 'curse' of never being able to 'win' at many things. Of course, I get frustrated, whine by myself, get angry at myself. But at least, I get to see the worst side of myself frequently. Some people don't have that opportunity. Being human is the privilege of a human.

But then again, good things also happen, just that I don't really appreciate them. Talk about being mentally-disabled.

Yes, I've been the self-centred me for a long time. Obviously because I live in this shell and see everything from inside it, it's difficult to get a perspective of how things look from a different angle. I like distracting myself from the reality because there isn't a clear path to take. There doesn't seem to be anything ahead of me, it's so much like walking in a misty swamp, only able to see 5 inches in front of you. That's the thing I've been facing for months. How is anyone suppose to anticipate what to do next? Take away sight and I can't play any sports anymore, same goes for foresight and living.

So, I am suppose to rely on faith? What am I suppose to do? There's no answer at all! I get so frustrated. And it affects my studies. It's difficult to have any passion for your studies when you don't know what to do in the future. Yes, half of the time, it's also the lazy me making excuses.

So, if I'm able to write a post about these confusions, I must have already found a hint of an answer. Basically, it's the same answer, reading God's Word and praying consistently, just to stay connected to God, so that my conscience is always functioning. We are His creations after all. Hopefully, I get that first step right.








Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Clutch

Have you ever placed all your hopes on a single thing you truly believed in? Something you believe in so much you are willing to risk everything for it. And I do not exaggerate as though speaking from an anime script. Okay maybe I am.

You know I've started to feel that when you start facing a lot of unreasonable obstacles all of a sudden when you are working towards something, it means that you are on the right track. The harder it is, the better the end result. It makes sense I guess, since we all know that the more shortcuts you take, the weaker your accomplishment will be.

And of course, there is the gnawing fear that THAT something you placed all your hopes and dreams on would one day ... ...


Foolish? Maybe, but I'm hardly able to do any better than this.
So, all I can do is pray and believe. After all, God is gracious and at the same time just.

(eob exams next week. Now you know why I'm back to blogging ahaha. Seems like this (updating blog before exams) is starting to turn into a personal tradition, eh? Anyway, cheers to you, reader!)

Sunday, November 29, 2015

Thank you

Thank you for helping me realise that the need for me to grow up has never been greater than now.

This matter is so distracting for me to the point that I have to let it out now so that I can concentrate on my last-minute studying. Got an end-of-block exam in two days. I know I said I won't do well this block, but I think that's just pathetic. I want to do well and I want to burn my brain to get that. I'm sorry I made it look like I had given up. What is the use of faith if I don't use it?

Thank you for giving me back my spirit. Please be patient with me. I really want to improve. I won't blame anyone else anymore. Doesn't matter what kind of childhood I had, I am responsible for everything I do from now on. I am a wimp and a coward. But I don't want to be like that anymore.

I'm sorry I let you down, always being indecisive, shy, depressed. That's not from God and I really don't want to be a part of it. God help me please, I want to be an inspiration and encouragement, not an object of sympathy.

This is my prayer and commitment.

Sunday, November 22, 2015

What happened?

Something's definitely different. 

Where did that version of me go? The version of me who always believed that if at least someone could do it, I could do it? The version of me who got more determined the more I failed? What happened to the boy who had infinite energy and spirit? 

Come back, please.

Saturday, September 19, 2015

...yo~

If you just met me you probably might think I'm stuck up, boring and unenthusiastic about everything. That's right. I have no emotions towards almost anything in life because it is all dull to me, except for the things I treasure. But I do see all people as humans and I will treat you the same as I treat anyone. I am harshly fair and very unbiased, because I almost totally don't care about being anyone's favourite friend.

Looking from a different perspective, that's exactly what I care about. I care for the unamusing, the dull, the invisible, and the ignored. So if someone said a dry joke in class and you heard a stifled laugh from the back, that might be me. Welcome to my world. But when it comes to sports, knowledge and loyalty, I take these very seriously. But I guess results don't matter to me because I didn't care when I failed my chem or didn't get straight As in  A levels.

If you are a person who is like me, I probably wouldn't have approach you, but you can be sure I noticed you and I like your introvert personality. Cheers. If you screwed up huge, I like that, not that you screwed up but that you are in the same boat as me, I screw things up too. If you have confidence problems, high five. If you are a nerd, hi. If you are timid and shy, yo. If you are awkward, nice to meet you. If you talk slowly because you want to mean every word you say, I like you. If you hate the spotlight and just wanna be invisible, I noticed and I smiled inside. But I admire those that, although having this personality, are able to change their personality to become so charismatic and exciting when the situation calls for it, and I strife to be like that. It takes a lot of my energy though and I need to go back to my bubble and recharge... I noticed all your bubbles, but I'll keep that knowledge to myself.

I've nothing against the loud ones or the cool kids, I just can't be like you, so if you think I'm arrogant, I don't mind and I don't have the energy to explain it to you anyway.





Saturday, August 29, 2015

Nice and clean first day

No I didn't attend the rally. I drove my dad to the train station so yaaa- chokes*

I appreciate the spirit my elders have for the next generation. I know I should not be silent, but I need to find what air I can breath in before I find my voice. I didn't fully understand to what extent this rally will help this country, but I think I realised it a little. I was wrong to think that every action we do must produce very significant results. Sorry, but now I can see that simply showing up and gathering in peace can still be enough to tug at some hearts. And even though it was just a tugging, it can produce small results that lead to the final goal. 

It's either great foresight, or just a great waste of effort-if the government still doesn't change. No, may there be no waste. For the passion of the innocent who had to bear unfair punishment and embarrassment, we can't let anything go to waste. And of course it won't. Maybe you may think this is a gamble, where the odds aren't in your favour but you still know you are doing the right thing. But it's not a gamble, if you have God on your side, it's a sure win.

I hope hatred against individuals is not what spurs you, but love for this nation. That's why we pray not only for change, but for forgiveness and acceptance. It is never too late to turn around, even for the most evil of men.

I saw papa's face when he returned, and he was proud of the time he spent. Thumbs up to everyone who joined.  

Anyway, thank God everything went peacefully today. 

   




Don't read this if your life is complicated enough

What do you see when you observe someone's actions? His reasons or motives, his emotions or attitude, or his next move?

There's nothing to the above question. I am just curious. No, I haven't read any philosophical book again, or watched weird shows. I just over-think stuff. In sports or games, I have learnt that guessing future moves, and planning moves is extremely important. Knowing the mental and physical state of the opponent also puts you at an advantage. Anyway, in sports, you know you make your decisions based on knowing the odds, your abilities, and your opponents strengths or weaknesses. But, it isn't really the same in life right? Exploiting people's weaknesses to get what you want definitely isn't right to begin with.

I was thinking of free-will. Humans have the freedom to make their own choices in life. But what affects those choices? Our personality? Our memories? Rationality? The Holy Spirit? I'm a bit hesitant to venture too far in thinking about the definition of free will. Maybe 'free will' is a bad term for it, maybe it should be 'voluntary decision-making'. Because if 'free will' is doing something without being affected by anything, then what do we base our decisions on? When I make a decision, aren't I affected by my personality, the kind of upbringing I have, the circumstances that I am in and the conscience I have? So, when one is born, does one already have a personality? So, if we do, how do we attain that personality? God gives us a soul and spirit and body, so the personality must be given by Him too, right?

I do have some difficulty in coming to terms with my past, which is may or may not be silly, because I'm not even close to being 40. Still, it makes one feel kinda lousy, when you know you are eccentric and you try not to be but end up being weird without realising it until later. On the other hand, I just might have an eccentric way of looking back at things, probably exaggerating events in my head. Is it a desperate attempt at seeking attention? Anyway, I was a jerk many times so really sorry to everyone I hurt before. Thank God, I'm slowly improving.

Everyone makes bad choices. I do bad things before I can stop myself. The evil I do, comes from the human nature within me, fuelled by emotions I don't keep in check, and a stimuli that triggers my emotions. Everyone was a human and sinful nature within them, so nothing I can do about that. The part we work on, is our controlling part right? Consistent communion with God (which I still struggle with), healthy and encouraging companionship, I can only think of these two as the best.

Finally, I've built this circuit of thoughts to bring you to what I'm confused with right now:
Did I get all these negative emotions, habits, desires, from the people around me or am I born with them? I believe it is both right? Then if that is true, how does the fault lie in me? I don't know how I did all these wrongs, for I was born with the intent and affected by my environment. I'm not sure how that can be counted as free will..

Hence, I think I understand a little now. It isn't about fault, as long as we committed sin, it is in us, but that does not mean we are to be blamed. That is why you hate the sin and not the sinner. Furthermore, I understand that it is impossible to be sinless by our own abilities and efforts. It's not even an option. Can you see how a person can totally be without sin? No right. I mean, we sinned even before we realised that we understood what sin was, so we can't stop ourselves from sinning, and we can't redeem our own sins. Those who have sinned won't be able to come into God's presence not because He rejects us, but He rejects the sin in us. Imagine sin is the deadly disease, we are the body, and God is life. The body will struggle to keep the disease out, but once it takes over, the body can't hold on to life any more. So, Jesus is the center of it all. He is the only one that can atone for our sins, so we may be saved from this path leading to a meaningless end. Don't you think so? There may be ways of living, or arts of meditation, that may help us reduce the sin we commit, but we still are tainted with the guilt of our past. So when someone tells you that you are sinful, although it sounds blunt, that is not an insult. It is the same as telling someone that one day they are going to die. Uncomfortable, but it's true.

I have understood this kinda late, I know. Probably missed out on this understanding due to lack of reading? Distractions maybe, but then I am always late for everything.

If you have read until here, wow. I salute your patience and interest in this kind of topic. It feels good to know one isn't alone.